Dear Gossip Girl,
There’s this guy that I like and he said he liked me too…but he is my best friend’s ex boyfriend! Going out with him would be betraying my best friend but I really like him. Please help me!
Love Triangle Lis,
It stands to reason that we would develop crushes on the people our friends date. We are very similar to our friends and therefore the guys they date would naturally appeal to us, right? But you have to ask yourself one very simple question: who do you picture being in your life the longest?
Spoiler alert: your friends, not your crushes. I’m barely even Facebook friends with boys was once soooooo in looooove with, whereas my elementary, middle and high school BFFs are still in my life today. If I had traded them for some of-the-moment lusting, I would have missed out on so much love and laughter (not to mention some seriously stellar partners in crime).
Also, ask yourself if you really like the boy or if you simply want what your best friend had. Do you envy her? Do you want to be like her in other ways? Perhaps what you’re really after is her life, not her ex.
Or, even worse, he may just be going after you to spite her. This could all be a twisted game (and granted I love twisted games) of revenge that he’s playing, so be careful.
Whatever the case, steer clear of your pal’s man. Because what goes around comes around, darling and it’s never a pretty sight…XOXO.